Everything You Wanted to Know About Foreplay But Were Too
Pigheaded to Ask
FOREPLAY IS CRITICAL
Most guys have got the whole sex thing figured out pretty good. I mean how hard could it be right? Insert tab A into slot B and you’re good to go! Eh, well not so fast there, cowboy… Some guys forget that foreplay is a crucial step in the process, and it is vital if they want to keep their ladies satisfied.
Studies show that up to 75% of women do not reach orgasm during sex. This is why foreplay is so important; it may be the only time your partner is able to achieve an orgasm. However, foreplay can be a little more confusing than the more straight forward act of sexual intercourse.
TAKE THE CUE ON WHAT TO DO
So how do you figure out if you are doing it right? While you can find tips on how to pleasure a woman, the truth is – every woman is different. What works for one may not work for another. This is why it is important to look for “cues” to see if what you are doing is having the desired effect on your woman. A sharp intake of breath, sighs, positive body movements; all these things are good signs that what you are doing is “hitting the spot”.
SOMETIMES EXPERIENCE DOESN’T COUNT
If you are a little inexperienced when it comes to sexual foreplay, you may even be a little better off than your “experienced” counterparts. This is because men that think they know what they are doing tend to just do what has “always” worked, and this could work to some degree, but looking for cues from your partner is much more effective.
Another mistake that men who have things “figured out” make is that they move too quickly. Just because you know where the clitoris is doesn’t mean you have to skip right to it. Women love it when men take their time to explore their whole bodies. Some men go straight to the “goods”, but, in reality, having a guy play with the button on your jeans and sneak his way into your bra can be a much bigger turn on then full on physical stimulation. Not that you shouldn’t get “there”, just that you should remember to enjoy the journey and not just take the shortcut to the “destination”.
MORE BUTTONS TO PRESS THAN THE CLITORIS
On the same note; the clitoris is not the only “button” on a woman. There are dozens of erogenous zones on the human body and finding out which ones make your lady shudder with delight is part of the fun of being in a sexual relationship. The most common erogenous zones include:
- the neck and throat
- the small of the back
- inner thighs
- rib cage …. and of course,
- breasts and nipples
Some women can even have a full orgasm just from nipple stimulation, which gives you a great excuse to continue touching her amazing lady lumps. One thing that you should be careful of, however, is that some women’s nipples can be very sensitive.
ASK IF SHE SQUIRMS
If you see her squirm (and not in the good way) it may be a good idea to ask her if it feels good or not. The same thing goes for clitoral stimulation. Too hard and it might hurt and too soft and it might just be frustrating for her.
This is why it is important to go with the “hints” her body gives you. When in doubt, you can always just ask. This may seem a little awkward, as some people don’t talk much during sex. But, it is better to have good communication (whether verbally or through body language) so that you both can be happy.
Any Guys or Gals have their own suggestions on what works best for you when it comes to foreplay? Let us all know in the comments below.